My Dad's Journey with Cancer

Dec. 12, 2019

My dad can be a boring man which some may think is a bad thing. Well, when your oncologist tells you that you’re a boring patient…you take it as a compliment and you walk out the door.

Boring patient = Stable. No growth. No spreading.

Today, I am glad to say my dad is boring. Super, Super boring!!! I will take boring over drama/worrying/stress any day! All I want for Christmas is a healthy Family and although some are not categorized as “healthy”…we are not going anywhere anytime soon <3

 

Happy Holidays! And May Your Family Be As Blessed As Ours! <3

And if you have read my posts before….you know, and I hope my dad knows by now, I love you so much. I am such a lucky girl to have you as my father. I wouldn’t change it for the world. You are now and will always be my hero. Love you more.

Aug. 28, 2019

NEW HEADLINE: DAD CONTINUES TO BE AMAZINGLY AWESOME!!

 

I am sure everyone can agree with this headline. He has been fighting this stupid thing called cancer for years. Living closer to him (and yes, you too mom 😊) makes life better. I get to hear his corny jokes, share ice cream with him, he comes and watches Autumn do karate, short vacations (Rocky Pointe) together, the list goes on for why I am so thankful to be close to him. To have him in my life.

You hear all these awful stories about people fighting for their life in many different ways and my heart breaks and aches every time I hear one of those stories. Not everyone gets the chance to have their dad (or someone else that is dear to your heart) in their life and that is not fair.

With that being said, he is one of the lucky ones. My dad and I often talk about being lucky and that other people have it worse off than us. We continue to be thankful for what we have even if at some moments it is difficult to stay positive. Obviously, wish we were a little luckier so I wouldn’t have to be writing this post.

At my dad’s last check-up, even though dad may not agree or not want me to tell (too bad dad, this is my post hahaha), but it was a scary one. My dad’s kidney is working hard. His kidney is running a marathon and it keeps chugging along but it is tired. His bloodwork showed that his kidney is now at 40% filtration. That is the lowest it has been to date. The oncologist (not a kidney specialist) was not too concerned because “it isn’t kidney failure.” He did tell him to go see a urologist specialist so that will come in a couple weeks. Keep working little kidney!!

 

On the VERY BRIGHT SIDE, my dad’s cancer has NOT spread and NOT grown. It is amazing!!!!! SOOO lucky!!!

I continue to pray at night for my dad. I am not big on praying…but if he can hear me and is willing to listen, then, I will keep doing it. So far, he has heard my prayers. Now it is time to include kidney in the prayer.

 

GREAT NEWS but, I’ll be honest…It would have been perfect news if that kidney function was higher.

 

Thanks for keeping strong and not letting this stupid thing keep you from enjoying life. The memories we are making now will be remembered forever. Just like you being that crazy dad running up and down the field at my soccer games. A forever memory. Let’s keep making memories!!! Love you dad!!

May. 2, 2019

There is so much hatred in the world right now. Maybe it has always been there but it is more apparent now. Controversy over politics, religion, etc. The list goes on and it causes people to personally attack others.

 

However, there is one topic that I have never come across where there are conflicting opinions. Cancer. Not the treatment types. Just cancer. Everyone I talk to (or even don’t talk to) knows that cancer sucks. I have never come across anyone saying that they think cancer is a great thing. People come together to support and help each other through illnesses. They don’t care about their politics or their religion (and if they do, they shouldn’t).

 

All of you reading this, you are our “people.” More specifically, my dad’s “people.” You have come together to support him with positive thoughts, calls of love, prayers, and so much more. And because of all the positivity, it has kept my dad positive.

 

My dad went and did his 4 month scan (3 months moved to 4 months due to kidney functioning) and results show today that he is “as good as it gets.” His tumors have not grown or spread. His blood work looks great. He is about to reach year 4 of having cancer and we continue to be blessed!!!

 

My dad says he is going to be around awhile and that makes my heart so happy!! Sharing this news, I know that you all feel the same way.

 

I look at my dad and he’s strong even when he feels weak. He is a warrior that does not give up. He is a good person despite how others may treat him. He loves his family and wife so much. Over these last 4 years, he has worried about his kids, friends, and family when (I think) he should have been focused more on himself.

 

During this time that there is a lot of personal attacking happening and hatred towards one another, I still have faith. Faith that all people can be good. Faith that great things can happen. Faith that people can come together and be kind to one another. You are the proof. You are here reading this because you are kind and caring. For that, I am thankful. I am thankful that you continue to pray and have positive thoughts.

 

I am thankful for my dad and all that he does.

 

Remember moments like this, that even though we all have different opinions and thoughts..that we can all agree on one thing. Cancer F*#king Sucks.

 

Thank you for being my dad’s “people.”

 

I love you more dad.

Jan. 3, 2019

Success. There are many synonyms for it including: triumph, victory, positive outcome, or even the good life. It is difficult to decide which word or phrase to use right now as my dad moves forward with his battle of cancer. It has been a long time since I have posted an update on my dad but have no fear, it is not because he has been receiving bad news.

 

Today, my dad went in for the results of his blood work and 3-month MRI. My dad continues to have positive outcomes with his battle. The MRI showed that there has been no growth or spreading of his cancer. It remains small (er) in the pancreas and liver. In addition to this, his one kidney is showing positive results. It actually shows that it is in the NORMAL range. My dad told me that the normal range is anywhere from 0.9-1.5. The higher the more it is struggling. My dad's is functioning at 1.4! It is the first time in 10 years that it has been in the normal range. The cancer treatments that my dad has tried, the chemo pill, the Whipple surgery and PRRT has helped him in many ways. These treatments are very difficult on your body and unfortunately cause every day side effects but I am so thankful that my dad continues to fight.

 

My dad's oncologist told them today that his cancer has stayed stable for 1 YEAR! In his professional opinion, he feels that because of those results my dad does not need to come in for his MRI scans every 3 months but now every 4 months. I feel that is both exciting and scary. So much can happen in 4 months. However, for an oncologist specializing in nueroendrocine cancer to say there is no need for it is very exciting! It will also be less stress on his kidney.

 

I count my blessing that he continues to get good news! It looks like it is going to be a great New Year!

 

Success, triumph, victory, positive outcome, or the good life, whichever you want to use, explains the way the family is feeling!

 

As always, thank you for being our community in supporting and praying for him! We definitely feel the love!

Sep. 3, 2018

My dad got his monthly shot and is waiting until his 3-month checkup for the scan and bloodwork. If you read my write-up then you know we learned that his cancer is still small (no growth) and has not spread. His one kidney is working hard. Go, the MOST!  So why the write-up?

My dad handed me a short little article a few days back about how John McCain’s daughter felt about her dad. To sum it up, there is a special bond between father and daughter from the moment the daughter is born which, in my case and the cases of many I know, is accurate. They look up to their father as if they were a knight wearing armor, leading them through life, sympathizing through heartbreak, challenging times, supporting them, etc. Then, as you keep reading it talks about how when John McCain got sick the daughter took over his role and guided him and supported him while he fought cancer. It said that she no longer looked at him as a strong knight in armor but weaker.

When my dad handed me the article he simply smiled and walked away. We did not talk about it but rather just said it was sweet.

Dad,

After reflecting and thinking about the article you had me read about John McCain and his daughter…I thought you should know you are still the knight. When I look at you, you are still wearing that armor. You are still the knight that I have always thought you were through life. Even as an adult, you give me your advice and help me think about things in different ways. A different perspective. We have always looked at things differently and I thought that was perfect. You are very logical and look at the numbers. I am the emotional, understand the logic, but more emotional than logical.

Dad don’t think for one minute, currently in your battle, that I look at you as weaker and that I need to take care of you. Don’t get me wrong, I will call a few times a day to ask how you are doing and would do anything you need but not because it is my turn to take care of you. It is because, as a knight, you go out and fight. You fight until you have won and you come back tired (which any knight would..watch the movies) and focus on the win until you are physically ready to fight again.

You are strong. You are brave. You are a fighter. You are still a knight.

Today is not the day that I look at you and think it is my turn to take care of you. I do not feel that today, and I don’t think that day will come anytime soon.

 

Keep fighting dad. You are winning the battles and will eventually win the war.

 

Love you more.